tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7563972443080081407.post8587600294229438724..comments2023-07-25T09:05:24.908-07:00Comments on Musicology / Matters: Musicology and The Two-Body ProblemPMGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14859373169517442483noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7563972443080081407.post-54193555212506610632010-07-29T20:32:38.404-07:002010-07-29T20:32:38.404-07:00I really love this entry. I feel strongly that thi...I really love this entry. I feel strongly that this is an important avenue for us to attempt to guide the "two-body problem" conversation onto. I know that my relationship made me feel happy and safe throughout grad school, when so much of the other stuff going on is threatening and complicated. He is my best reader, like you say about your lady, and we have enriched each others' scholarship enormously--both of us have written papers in the other's field, which was made possible by shared expertise and discussions. Another more mundane but very real benefit of the two-body problem is that if a committee likes a candidate, and knows that candidate's partner has a position at that institution or city, then they can BANK ON the candidate taking the job if it's offered, and STAYING THERE.MMRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15153354751263597162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7563972443080081407.post-66776058776487240752010-06-18T11:26:13.916-07:002010-06-18T11:26:13.916-07:00First off, wow - great post.
To reply to PMGs la...First off, wow - great post. <br /><br />To reply to PMGs last comment - I AGREE. Wholeheartedly. It makes such a difference. The support does make it worth it. <br /><br />Meanwhile - I loved this post. Thanks for writing it. It's true that the topic itself is almost a taboo. My partner and I are in a very similar situation. I noticed in my last successful interview that I consciously drew no attention to even being partnered. <br /><br />In reality, it is an issue. Even as we speak, she's applying for jobs in the new city I'll be studying in. There are some difficult decisions to make, as her current academic job right now is pretty amazing both in terms of content and financially. As such, of course we recognize the value of the opportunity, can weigh the decisions, and quickly realized that if she doesn't find a comparable job she should just stay here in her current position. I wonder often if whether I'm partnered and/or queer would have had an adverse effect on the admissions decision and admittedly, we're both a bit nervous about settling in and bursting the bubble in a conservative academic city. <br /><br />Anyway - keep writing. I'm going to link to you so I can keep up with your work!<br /><br />Sincerely, <br /><br />DanielleDaniellehttp://sociosound.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7563972443080081407.post-37397114752593292782010-05-11T07:43:35.311-07:002010-05-11T07:43:35.311-07:00It's very true, we rarely talk about the posit...It's very true, we rarely talk about the positive benefits of being in a relationship, except perhaps for a line in the acknowledgments of books and dissertations.<br /><br />I will say one concrete thing I have gained from being in a longterm relationship during graduate school: I finished my degree on time. When your partner has an actual 9-5 job earning your rent, and comes home from work everyday to find you moping over an unfinished chapter and a messy house, that's an excellent incentive to suck it up and finish the damn thing.PMGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14859373169517442483noreply@blogger.com